I’ve been off the radar for a while now and for good reason. Ever so often life throws a curved ball at you, forcing you to get acquainted with the hardest reality of life. The truth that we so conveniently choose to ignore. The truth that might hit us in the most unexpected of times. And then, you shiver…..stop…..and reflect. Will we ever be ready to face it when the time comes?
You’ve already guessed it by now….yes! DEATH!
We read about it in the news every single day but it doesn’t hit home until it is a near and dear one. So ironic of human nature. We say we care, we pretend it pains us when we watch world massacres, but never so much until it affects yourself.
We are so busied by the mundane routines of life that we neglect and ignore those precious few people in our life. Life for us millennials has become an everyday challenge. The world has expanded and been put at our fingertips. Social media connects us all and yet distances us. Not all but definitely some of us have lost the art of expressing by way of talking. We text/tweet/post better than we talk and this has surpassed the limits for the generations after us.
We are continuously stressed by our workplaces which have over the years forgotten that their employees are humans too. Living, breathing, feeling humans that have a life outside the workplace too. We come home to many other tasks including tutoring and chaperoning our kids to religious / recreational activities that are important for their character building. Very few people around you are ready to even lend a helping hand.
So around all this it requires one to sacrifice those few minutes of solace to dial the number or drive to those few family and friends that are important. Those precious few that do care about you. Those cousins, uncles, aunts and friends that were part of your life when you were little and have still hung on and care about you.
Us millennials I believe have come to that threshold of life where near and dear elders are passing on. We need to remind ourselves amidst our busy routines to reach out to them and serve them if we can, while we can. Needless to say our parents and siblings should top the list.
Those of you who do, kudos to you. A few who need to give it that extra push, keep at it. And when the time does come for a near and dear one:
- Shiver – let the feeling run through you. It hits hard, you shake, you quiver, but let it pass.
- Stop – give it a moment. Think. Pray for the deceased. Do everything you can to comfort the family and friends directly affected. If you are the one directly affected, hold on, seek support, connect to the Almighty and you will eventually bounce back.
- Reflect – on yourself and your life. Make a few changes if you have to, within yourself or in your life, to make yourself a better person, to set things right in your life. This will never ever make you ready, but might make it a tiny bit easier.
Allah Almighty says, “Every self will taste death. You will be paid your wages in full on the Day of Rising. Anyone who is distanced from the Fire and admitted to the Garden, has triumphed. The life of this world is only the enjoyment of delusion,” (3:185)