The dreaded ‘D’

It’s with us but we don’t recognize it. We know it but we don’t want to acknowledge it. We want to be hush and not name it. A silent crisis, we rather not discuss. So it takes the upper hand and eats us from within. Rejoicing with every little win.

The dreaded ‘D’ comes in all shapes and sizes. Surprising and capturing us to take us in its darkest lairs. It muffles our screams and takes away our speech, so we wont tell and suffer alone with the dreaded ‘D’.

The hurt, the pain, the tears…all masked and felt in an alternate realm; while ‘D’ rips through the soul, so, the world sees the calm and not the ‘D’ within.

And then its the loneliness and falling through eternity. ‘D’ drags us down so far, the mask is now invisible; we can no longer do it but it needs to be done. Someone just needs to intervene, pull down this mask and save us from the dungeons of the dreaded ‘D.

The dreaded ‘D’ is ‘He Who Must Not Be Named’. Not saying its name out loud just increases its fear. So yes it is ‘Depression’. Something that we all go through at some point in life but we’re not all the same, we don’t always bounce back. It sucks the happiness out of us like a ‘Dementor’ and not all of us know how to throw a ‘Patronus’ spell at it. So we need support and need to build an army, to learn the spells and face it head long.

At some point or the other, all of us have experienced sadness. But, sadness luckily doesn’t stay too long. The dreaded ‘D’ affects work, school, home, eating, sleeping….essentially our whole life and our ability to enjoy this gift of life.

Depression is all the more common in teens today and at times leads to not ever okay outcomes. The saddest part is that it is on the increase. Studies show that a majority of teens have at least once contemplated suicide. Times have changed and life gets tougher for today’s teen.

We’ve all felt peer pressure and the longing to fit in, but the extensive use of social media sky rockets this pressure. Teens are bullied not only in schools but out of it too on social networks. Things that at one time were normal are blown out of proportion and turned into embarrassing situations leading the victim to delve into the depths of depression.

So what to we do? At first, recognize it and acknowledge it. As parents, family, friends and educators we need to do that. The world once thought that depression was not present in children. We mistook it for the moodiness of puberty, but today, teens can be clinically depressed.

Effective intervention is the key. A long time ago parents shrugged off our problems and told us to get over it but today we better think before doing that. Of course there’s a fine line. We need to toughen them up but at other times we’d do better with talking to them, discussing their feelings, supporting them and most importantly telling them we love them and making them feel important.

Kids today crave for attention and sadly they’re getting it from unwanted sources. Parents, family, friends and others need to be there for them. They need to be comfortable enough to divulge the day’s happenings and in that way we can prevent things from going out of hand. If things get serious, talk to the concerned authorities at school.

Gladly schools these days compulsorily appoint qualified counselors and also train their educators to deal with issues of bullying. Most schools have a step by step support chart that both the educators and students are aware of.

If it has gone too far, look out for warning signs. Involve qualified personnel to deal with such issues. Children need to be reminded that drastic measures are never an option.

Most importantly recognize that every one has different emotional IQs. Not all children have the same developmental level. As parents, family, friends and educators it is our job to not let them go unnoticed. Build a relationship that encourages friendship and discussion.  Get to know them and learn their way of life. Teach them to take one day at a time and imbibe hope. Make them fight it for just one more night. Show them that we are all better than what we think we are.

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3 Replies to “The dreaded ‘D’”

  1. Great intro to this intense and vast topic (especially the Harry Potter references). It’s good to know when people take mental health seriously. Schools often focus on academic knowledge and ignore the ethical and psychological knowledge and students’ individuality. We need to support and empower each other; by not standing idle and not going overboard with bombardment of support at the same time. Because depression is much much scarier and difficult to live with than sadness. And I know someone who has accepted depression as a way of life…can’t imagine how that feels.


  2. Such an important topic to write on! And you’ve put it so greatly. We need to be supportive and be polite and kind towards people…. Coz we never truly know what others are going through! – f


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